My question is this – does this apply to widowers as well or is it fair to give him a little more time and just get busy with other things so I don’t put pressure on him?He says he has always taken it slow in dating and this is nothing new.Widowers are survivors, and as such, most come through the grief process much stronger, more resilient, and embrace life with more gusto.Those are big changes for any person, but it would appear that for the widower, this growth is marked not by the passage of time but by how he handles the cards that are dealt to him.At it is free to join and we aim to make it as easy and straight forward as possible for widows and widowers based in the various cities and states of the US to meet in a safe and relaxed manner, providing the ideal conditions for new relationships to blossom.
For those seeking to meet somebody new after the loss of a spouse, it can often seem hard to know where to begin.
I don’t want to make any major moves (me or him) at least until the first anniversary of her death, but I do want to enjoy him in the meantime. My response: I certainly appreciate your concerns about developing a relationship with a man so recently widowed, but you know yourself and this man better than I do, so in the end, only you can determine whether there is “anything wrong with this.” I can tell you that the relationship your man had with his wife and whatever ongoing attachment he feels toward her, both now and in the future, is unique to him, and how he reacts to this loss will be unique to him as well.
There is no right or wrong way to grieve, and there is no specific time frame.
He says he started grieving his loss of her before she even died since she’d been bed-ridden for two years, and he knew he’d be saying goodbye.
They discussed openly his finding someone new to spend his life with since they both knew he wasn’t very good at staying alone for very long. We live several states apart from each other, so for now our relationship is mostly on the phone and whenever he can come up for long weekends.