Helping children cope with dating after divorce

Rather than planning a long visit, it’s best to have a brief, casual meeting with few expectations.

Finding extra time for the child while seeing a new person is difficult, but important. Children may feel anger at being forced by adults to make another adjustment.With the US divorce rate still lingering around 50% for first marriages, many children have experienced their parents’ divorce by the time they are eighteen.And most adults are out and dating again within a year after their divorce, sometimes dating several partners before remarriage.They are dealing with their own issues of loss, betrayal, adjustment, trust- just to name a few.Parents need to make sure before things get tricky that children understand their continued importance to them, the freedom for the child(ren) to continue a close loving relationship with the ex-spouse (despite any personal misgivings) and the possibility of new people in the parent’s life.How children act out this anger depends on their developmental stage. Whatever the circumstances, dating may trigger emotions that are similar for both parents and children.

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