Time Elapsed A new separation is clearly more undefined.
Committed couples often hit major snags in a relationship and lose each other for a period of time.
In light of these experiences, here's my compassionate and informed advice if you're thinking about jumping back into the dating scene, and perhaps even if you hear wedding bells ringing in your near future: • If you've started your divorce process, honestly evaluate how your separation or divorce is going. Further, consider how your spouse may react when he or she finds out you're dating.
While he contemplated all the choices he made and the failures he experienced and the happiness he once felt, I was left in the dark; incapable of comprehending just how difficult that limbo is and was.
I learned that I couldn’t possibly be the only woman he would love.
When I moved back to my hometown we spent a lot of time together, I spent a lot of time with his son, and I spent a lot of time listening to him explain the circumstances surrounding his divorce, and the pains that inevitably followed. And while it wasn’t a relationship that lasted a substantial period of time, it was a relationship that taught me a great deal about myself, about what I wanted, and about the difficulties of dating someone who was once legally committed.
I learned that I would have to constantly share him. Legal proceedings and endless paperwork force people who are going through a divorce to live with one foot in the past, and one foot in a possible future.