I love your column and think you do a great job of answering questions and concerns with sympathy, empathy and insight. I asked if that’s why he doesn’t want to move in—because he’s afraid we’ll break up and it’ll be a pain to move out. We knew a couple who broke up after living together.I have been cheated on by every other guy and he is the longest relationship I've had by at least 14 x and his longest was a year on and off before me.We live together all our money is separate and we don't control or even know where the other spend there money.
Even if he doesn't try to touch you, there's something very odd about a 22-year-old man who feels connected to a 15-year-old.
We discussed moving in together when my lease is up in October, but now I know he’s not ready. I tell him that he can still have that if we’re living together, but he’s still not sure when he’ll be ready. He feels really strongly about living with me and equates it to marriage.
He said he’s not worried, that if we move in together, he’s sure we’ll stay together, like it’s a forever thing.
We have been living together for more than 5 years and share basically everything, finances and all. I have had the “talk” with him several times (in the past 3 years) and he reassures me that marriage is in the future.
Although, actions speak louder than words and no actions at all speak even louder.